Will polyurethane control arm bushing give my car better handling?

For a 2003 Honda Element awd
https://www.powerflexusa.com/shop/product/pff25-302-honda-civic-cr-v-element-front-control-arm-rear-bushing-1295

Also is kyb struts just as good as stock or better?

If your old ones are worn out then yes. If not then no. KYB struts are as good as OEM but no better.

The average labor cost for control arm bushings replacement is more than four hundred dollars. You have already flushed way too much credit card money down the toilet trying to upgrade your ancient brick. If you did not live rent free with your parents, you would be broke. Will polyurethane control arm bushing give my car better handling

If the control arm bushings are still good don't spend the money on those polys.