I question my boyfriend's finances, am I wrong for being annoyed?

My other issue is his car situation. He claimed to have a 2018 sports Subaru that he only had for a few months until his engine went out. I thought it was a bit odd strange for a brand new car to have a defect so soon. And that the replacement engine will cost $25,000.

He said money will be tight until he's able to pay off the engine.&he also needs me to do most of the driving. He lives about 35 minutes away and that drive can get tiring 5-6x a week. He'll provide gas money and offer to drive his dad's car at times too. About a month ago, he came with good news and said that the shop reduced the price to $5,000. So I thought that was great,. He claimed to be saving before so I thought he would've purchased the engine easily. It's now going into December and he says he only has $500 saved for an engine. He has an old 1990 Honda that he drives that is ALWAYS breaking down, and he says he constantly invests into that car and it now needs a $800 clutch, and he was thinking about doing that and then continuing to invest in his new car. It's like,.it is always some BS with his decision making.

Why would you invest so much money into 28 year old car that constantly have problems instead of putting that money into your brand new car that you're still paying a car note for and insurance? It's like his decision making and money management is trash. In the meantime, he's still asking me to pay for dates and do all the driving. He doesn't realize how draining it is

Why do you care? You haven't lent him any money and what he spends his money on is surely his problem. I honestly don't understand why his problem is draining on you.

A 2018 car would still be under warranty so he wouldn't be paying anything for a replacement engine. There's no way an engine would be 25k anyway. I wouldn't believe a thing he said.

He's BSing you!
The engine would be under warranty!
Have you ever really seen this 2018 car?

Btw his finances aren't your business.

I'm just going to join the chorus. He is not being honest with you at all. A car that new would still be in warranty and even if it was not, there's no way the engine would cost that much. Your boyfriends biggest problem is that he can't tell the truth. I think you really need a new and much more trustworthy boyfriend.

He's a liar. Plain and simple, and can't be trusted. A brand new Subaru is under basic warranty for 3 years, 36,000 miles, but the engine is covered under the powertrain warranty, 5 years 60,000 miles.

I saw your comment to someone else "… I just feel like there's more to the story."

There's no more to the story. He's a liar. You don't want a liar in your life. It will be one excuse after another and he will bleed everything he can out of you and out of anybody.

You are not wrong. Irresponsible money management is a huge red flag. Money problems and fights about money are one of the leading causes of breakups & divorces. So his foolish spending on cars will become more and more your problem if your relationship gets closer.

His story doesn't add up. Any 2018 car would be under warranty for a completely free engine replacement unless he's driven an astronomical amount of miles or if he was outright negligent in causing the engine failure - such as if he was racing it or went a whole year without changing the oil.

Even if its not under warranty for some reason, the engine would not cost $25,000.

Also, Subaru does not make, and never has made a car called a "sport"
Perhaps he has a WRX or STI model, which is a type of sports car.

I think you need to ask him to explain more about his car situation. You also need to just put a limit on how much you drive. Tell him you can only afford to come see him 2x per week because of the cost of gas and maintenance on your car. If he wants to see you more often he will have to come to you. Even if he pays you for gas, tell him you don't have time since is such a long drive.

If he's not being honest with you about his car situation, then that's a big red flag that you should reconsider whether or not you want to keep dating him.

A 2018 suburu would be under warranty, unless he wrecked it or something, and isn't insured. He's lying. Dump him if he can't start being honest ALL THE TIME.

Yes unless you like being lied too you should feel annoyed. The car should be under warranty and therefore fixed way before now.Sorry.

He could buy a 2019 Subaru sports car for just over $25,000. If he claimed an engine would run $25.000, he is FLAT OUT LYING.