I Really NEED ADVICE! I'm a 20 yo female
I'm a person who typically wants to help EVERYONE with EVERYTHING. It could be the smallest or biggest things, doesn't matter. When I help someone I feel really good about myself…
Well recently I have been told by several of my closest family members that I'm extremely controlling and I get mad over things that aren't my business…
I realize that this is true. I get mad over things that other people do that don't even involve me. I don't go around screaming or punching things I just bottle things up so that I don't sound controlling and then I suffer for the next two days with a headache because of stress.
Example: ( I made it up so you can see my thought process from my point of view)
Let's say you're my aunt/uncle. You want to buy a Buick, I know from my boss that Buicks break because she only had her car for 2 years and she started to have multiple issues with it. I also know from my father who has owned a honda for the last 7 years that the car hasn't had ANY issues. Now I start trying to persuade you into realizing that you're making a mistake for getting an unreliable car… Etc… You don't listen… So now I can't help but feel extreme anger inside towards you for not taking my advice. I feel it to the point where I PHYSICALLY feel pressure in my chest, kind of like my lungs are be held down by a rock.
How can I just NOT CARE about what OTHERS do? I Don't wanna be cocky but I often feel smarter than others.